When You Feel Lonely
I came across this image and the writing spoke directly to my heart. I know the dreadful feeling of loneliness all too well. I’ve been in a room full of people and felt that I was the only person in the room. I’ve been ignored, teased and made fun of. Yes, I know the feeling of loneliness. Some could even say, that may be a valid reason why I observe others in unfamiliar settings now. I’m always hopeful that I can make at least one new friend. In some cases, I find none or a few. I had to learn that although there may be several people in a room, I am not for everyone. That does not make them better than me, or me better than them. It simply means we are all different. There is nothing wrong with being different :).
I recall returning from an amazing Marriage Retreat in Arizona and informing my husband that I felt so lonely. While at the retreat we were blessed to develop awesome Kingdom friendships. We met two couples that live in Texas who are awesome. We know that we have new friends in Christ. If ever we travel to Houston, Texas we would have a blast with them. I explained to my husband that although I had him, family and friends I still struggled with feeling lonely. It wasn’t often, but it occurred enough for me to recognize that this was becoming an issue. It was confusing and scary. It was mostly making me sad. When I begin to feel uncomfortable, I tend to pull away. Of course pulling away when you feel lonely already is never the way to go. It leaves you much to open for the adversary to slide right in. The devil has a way of crushing you in the areas that you struggle in. It’s as if he makes a race to see how much damage he can cause in a short period of time. This tactic is not welcomed in my book. I had to make a choice to respond differently when those feelings of loneliness start to arise.
1.) You have to understand that the feeling of loneliness is not of God. God promises us that he is with us always. This means that he is concerned for you.
For the Lord will not cast off His people, Nor will He forsake His inheritance. Psalms 94:14 (NKJV)
2.) When you begin to feel lonely, find the triggers behind that emotion. Are you comparing yourself to someone else, are you watching and listening to things that do not represent Christ? Negative thinking and living can have great impact on your life.
A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body; jealousy is like cancer in the bones.Prov. 14:30 (NLT)
3.) Our fullness does not come from this world. It comes from us dying to our flesh daily and seeking God in all things. Our fullness comes from the Lord. When we submit ourselves to Him, we begin to seek Him in everything. He fills us and sustains us. He provides solutions to any and everything that we come against through his Word.
May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God. Ephesians 3:19 (NLT)